Many therapists talk about the wisdom of walking towards what is difficult in our lives, rather than away from it. Feel the fear and do it anyway. We peek at the monsters under the bed, and they're not as terrifying as we thought they would be. If we can get closer to the parts of ourselves that feel ugly and hateful, we can begin to understand them and feel empathy towards them. Once we can start to sit with the knowledge of impermanence, we can stop expending all our energy on running away. Our eyes and arms open up. We approach everything with calm equanimity. We can welcome it all in.