Today we finished INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
and moved onto MINDFULNESS in skills group. Now that I have gained back some
motivation to partake in DBT, I feel disappointed that I missed
so much of the DEARMAN, GIVE, and FAST skills. I get now why the modules
are repeated at least twice and am slowly coming around to being told I must
repeat the skills group again next year. So my guilt, although still there, has
dissipated somewhat.
This weeks homework is to focus on being
NON JUDGEMENTAL. It’s a toughie for me so, is a good one to re-visit (or should
I say visit, as I have yet to master it!) It was suggested that I get a tally
counter. Which is one of them clickity yokes to count how many times you notice
a judgement and learn to associate the ‘click’ with it. So tomorrow I am going
on a city wide hunt for one!
A place where I think I will be able to practise
this skill is at the Ball I am going to this Saturday night. I will be getting
all dolled up and be in the company of beautiful and highly intelligent people
(It’s the annual Medical Ball!), so as you can imagine…. I am shivering
with nerves already. My challenge is to go and simply notice all the judgements
I have about myself, other people and the environment.
All-though unless I can
find a counter to match my gown, I might leave it at home that night!
Wish me luck!
We're both on about the same section of DBT then.
ReplyDeleteI think being nonjudgmental is tough for a lot of people... I really have to pause and think... and focus. and say, "you know what... I may feel sad. That's okay. Feeling sad isn't right or wrong... it just is at this moment"
Consequently, I think the "observe" part is incredibly important
Ah thats so cool that you are also at the same stage as me. I agree, in order to be non judgmental you have to first observe it! I am grateful that we keep going over this set of skills, as i take something new from them each time. Since setting the goal to notice my judgments, I have realize how self critical I am and how many assumptions I make.
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